Once it was my favorite time of year, now the holidays are difficult for me. From Halloween until the New Year was joyous. Then my world and I changed.
Fifteen or so years ago my ex announced she wanted a divorce. That crushed my heart and my world. I’ve never found another person to share life. For a while I looked. That was a waste of time. I think finding another partner was never in the cards. I have accepted that.
Eleven years ago in late October and early November my parents died two weeks apart. They were the last spark of holiday joy. My mom was the spirit of Christmas in our family.
My children were grown and gone. With my wife and children gone and my parents gone I can’t muster up any holiday cheer though I try.
There is so much grief associated with holidays.
This year I’ve gotten a holiday cheer boost. A child is spending November and December in the rig. He brings his own holiday joy and it’s contagious I need more new good Christmas memories like this.
I read somewhere one should name their holiday grief. Name it and honor it. This year my holiday grief is the memories of good Christmas celebrations in my parent’s home. I’ll light a candle and place it on the not-an-altar.
I feel like I’m rambling so I think I’ll stop.
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Not suitable for the narrow minded.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 08:08:36
I’m so happy that you have a child with you to make new happy memories.
Hugs for all the rest.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 09:06:35
Thank you. Children bring the magic.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 14:05:33
I’m with you this year — this is the first time in about 10 years that I’ve been alone for all 3 holidays (my birthday is between Christmas and New Years). It’s been a difficult decision, but turned out for the best, as I would have had to drive 3 hours in heavy rain to be with friends and family. In drought-ridden SoCal, the holidays were effectively rained out!
Dec 29, 2020 @ 15:59:02
Rained out during a Covid spike is a blessing. 😎❤️
Dec 29, 2020 @ 16:14:30
Hah! Definitely a better reason to stay home!
Dec 29, 2020 @ 17:13:06
I’m excited about the vaccine. I’m looking forward to another layer of protection.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 17:23:04
As am I — and happy to be in the second priority group — maybe by the end of January or beginning of February!
Dec 29, 2020 @ 17:58:01
Me too.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 15:59:20
And Happy Birthday. 🎁
Dec 29, 2020 @ 16:14:48
Thank you!
Dec 29, 2020 @ 17:13:29
You are welcome.
Dec 29, 2020 @ 19:28:36
I’m glad you have someone around to liven things up. We celebrated Christmas by eating off the good china! Oooo!
We have lots of snow to get rid of tomorrow. Several inches out there now and more to come!
Dec 29, 2020 @ 19:49:25
Good luck with the snow. I’m in Gulf Shores AL. Too warm for snow. Suits me.
It’s great you used the good China.